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Old Mon Jan 18, 2010, 03:28pm
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Originally Posted by Ump153 View Post
I should have said: "You were never there."

None of your training or experience has involved this situation. If you believe all situations can be handled alike, you are either naive or a fool.

Shortly after moving down here, I met a cop who works in South Central. During one conversation I mentioned "vebal judo". He said, "We have name for cops who use verbal judo around here...deceased."

Nothing works everytime, every place. That's my point. You have no knowledge, or experience that indicates what you think you would have done would have worked any better. That's my point. You are free to suggest that you would handled it differenty, but you are wrong in making any claims to success in a situation you did not handle. That is my point.

Stick to your pussycats.
I HAVE been in similar situations, with volatile people. Verbal Judo is ONE technique that works in many cases. But, just plain old common sense in how you present yourself works EVERYWHERE!

If you posture aggressively towards somebody who is already pissed, you increase the chances of escalating the situation MANY MORE TIMES than by using neutral body language. Also, shouting back at somebody shouting at you almost always cause them to shout back at you, instead of talking in normal tones.

Tell me, who was in control of that confrontation? It CERTAINLY wasn't the umpires. IF the goal is to diffuse the situation, they didn't just about everything wrong in a visual sense. I bet a week's worth of game fee's that if we could hear the audio that these umps said at least a few things that only served to fan the flames.

I tamed my lions into pussycats. I took it upon myself to do so.
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