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					Originally Posted by tomegun  How would you feel, if your partner came over during this conversation and said, "What is this conversation about?  I gave her the T and can explain anything immediately following."
 These situations irritate me to no end.  Quick story.  I gave a coach a T several seasons ago and he was yelling across the court to find out what he did.  Since he actions were still unacceptable, I just ignored him.  My partner comes trotting over to me and says something along the lines of the coach wanted to know what he did.  I told him I would tell the coach once I'm in front of him during the natural flow of the game.  In the locker room, my partner told me that I HAVE to tell the coach what he did.  I forget all the details of our conversation, but we did not see eye to eye on this issue.
 
 I have also had pregames with D1 officials who mention this.  Basically, it looks like you are consoling a coach who's actions just warranted a T from your partner.  Some will disagree, but what can be gained from explaining what your partner called.  When this happens and I have to go table side, I will be more on the court and the coach will be looking at my backside.  If the coach continues with the behavior that earned him the T in the first place another one will follow.
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Regarding your situation, not sure I'm following the sequence of events on your T. You went  tableside and reported it, did he ask why he was T'd at that point? I think he's entitled to know why the T. 
Personally, I'd give a short, possibly one word reason for T. "you were warned" "Disrespect Coach", "Coach you used profanity" and the like. I answered his direct question and we move on. 
And if his actions were still unacceptable, I would inform him as such. I may choose not to be tableside in this case to get away from him and we pregame that. I don't have a problem with said coach talking with my partner within the framework of the game. Hopefully it can diffuse the situation.
And if it doesn't, I want another member of the crew to whack him. Again, all pregamed