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Originally posted by dacollegegirl
I am a mother who is new to the ball game, so forgive me if I am not to smart about things. My kids are in 5th grade and 4th grade basketball. My questions are: Is it common for coachs to hit the walls and such at ball games when they are upset with players so young and inexperienced? Is this improper behavior, as I suspect? And, what if he is not willing to change his behavior, and superintendent has no problem with his behavior?
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I'll offer my 2 cents. "Is it common for coachs to hit the walls and such at ball games when they are upset...?" This depends on the league superintendent and the officials. An official, in my opinion, could consider this unsporting conduct even if it is not addressed to him. If I had a game where a coach at this age level conducted himself in that manner, I would tell him he needs to settle down before I misunderstand one of his outburst as being directed at me or my partner. The next outburst would get him a technical. If they are using Federation rules in the league, he has to remain seated the rest of the game. But that is just how I would handle the situation, other officials are different. This conduct, while it may be common, is certainly unacceptable.
"What if he is not willing to change his behavior, and superintendent has no problem with his behavior?" As I see it you have a few options. (1) Use this as a learning experience for your children by explaining why you think the behavior is inappropriate, make the most of this season and help you kids learn as much about playing the game as possible. (2) Find someone qualified and willing who knows what games at that level should be about (fun and skill development) to coach a team and have your children moved to that team. (3) Move you children to another league. (4) Pull them off the team and wait till next season. I have been in your position in the past, and chose option #1.
Sorry you are having a bad experience. Believe me, there are some excellent coaches out there...maybe you will be fortunate enough to find one next season.