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Originally Posted by JRutledge
This should not be your concern. You cannot be concerned with what people will and will not do before you and after you. It is a losing battle if you try to worry about that. Do what you do and let the chips fall
I do not know about that comment. I do not think a kid complaining is right about a lot of things. They think like fans and claim they do nothing wrong.
That is clear, but that does not mean they simply turned the other cheek. We all have our own idea of how to handle these things and some come from simple trial and error. It should be noted that none of us where there we do not know how egregious the actions were.
Peace
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JRut,
First of all, I, as you know, appreciate and frequently agree with your views on game management. While this thread has been hijacked a bit, I would like to respond to these comments.
Keep in mind, I have been a coach for a much longer time than I have been a referee. Hence, I do sometimes think more as a coach than as a referee -- especially when it comes to these situations. Do I really worry about such situations as a referee? No, I personally do not. But, I must admit that when I watch a game that involves an individual such as this, I do casually think about what lies ahead the next week for this youngster if his coach does not provide some guidance.
You are right concerning coach, parent and player bias, but when a new official is just getting started, they are going to make many more mistakes than when they are experienced. Therefore, I suggest that the newest officials are better off trying to block out the criticism than giving technical fouls every time they turn around.
You are right, we do not know exactly how the officials were attempting to address the conduct of the player discussed. From the author's view, it appears as though some of the player's actions were inappropriate. It appears as though the coach (keep in mind, I am NOT necessarily blaming the OFFICIALS here, but I am blaming the COACH based on what was written here) could have helped this young player develop and missed the opportunity.
One of the great aspects of life that sports teaches us is how to handle adversity. An unfair manager at work, a biased professor in school, an inaccurate accusation by a customer, an illness in the family (perhaps our own), the death of a friend/relative, etc. put us in a position in which we must learn to deal with the situation in a rational manner.
It seems as though this player was put in a position to have to deal with adversity. The coach appeared to have had an opportunity to help this youngster grow and chose to allow the player to act out his frustrations without the teaching element being introduced. Once again, we do not know what the coach said in the locker room after the game, but the coach gave the appearance of missing a teaching moment.