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Originally Posted by grunewar
Could have used this advice/tactic....and I will in the future.
8th Grade Girls game. V down by 30 or so. Really a route. One of the only V Girls with any skills is getting frustrated - and it shows. I had the opportunity to talk to her during an inbounds play and as I handed her the ball I told her she needed to relax and play the game as she was getting a little "out of control." I then handed her the ball and off we go.
A few minutes later there's a scrum on the floor for a loose ball and she is fighting for it. TWEET! Now, I normally go toward the action (as I've been taught) and say something like, "easy, easy," trying to let them know we're here and the play is over. She keeps fighting for the ball and wrestling and swinging (I didn't call a foul). TWEET! I yelled, "ENOUGH!
Well, apparently, I hurt this Girls feelings. At the next break, the coach told me this young lady was on the bench crying and I shouldn't have raised my voice to her. I explained to the coach what happened previosuly about my warning and she said ok, she wasn't aware of that and asked me to inform her of this type of situation in the future. My partner, whom I worked with many times before agreed with the coach and said I was a bit over the top - I just didn't want it to go any further.
While there was no real opportunity to do so in my case (IMO), it's a good point and lesson learned for me - use the coach.
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grunewar:
I wouldn't lose any sleep over it. Sometimes you have to put some extra pizazz in your voice.
About six years ago in a USSSA Girls' 12U Fast Pitch Tournament the pitcher for the the really good team liked to quick pitch after every foul ball. After the umpteenth time of calling no pitch her coach got upset with me (why am I always the bad guy,
) and finally went out to "calm' her down. As he was returning to the dugout he yelled to me: "Look what you did, you made her cry you jerk!" She was indeed crying but the coach did not stop in the dugout and did not collect $200 as he continued on to the parking lot,
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Second storying about crying. Daryl and I were officiating the Michigan AAU Girls' 18U Tournament (qualifier to the national) about ten years ago. I called a foul on a girl and she turned to me and used a very unlady like word, which earned her a TF for unsportsmanlike conduct. The TF was her fifth foul; when I informed her that she had fouled out, she started crying.
MTD, Sr.