[Nevadaref]

I have reorganized some statements from your post so as to respond to its content in the most effective way.

Originally Posted by mu4scott

When a player is going hard to the basket like this it doesn't take much of a bump to get them off balance.

So what if he is off balance due to some contact? WHO CAUSED THAT CONTACT? If you are going to penalize the defender on a play such as this, then you must articulate exactly what the defender did that was illegal.
If he merely stood there and the offensive player bumped into him and was thrown off balance, then you should not be penalizing the defender.
You have yet to state what you believe the defender did that was illegal.

Originally Posted by mu4scott

At each camp I went to this summer it was drilled in our heads that if you have players on the floor in a situation like this (block/charge calls especially) you better have a whistle. I'm not adament that it should be a block or a charge, but I do think it needs to be one or the other.

That has been the philosophy of the NCAAW game for a few years now, but it has not been and currently is not the concept used in NCAAM games or NFHS games. Sometimes severe contact occurs that is just incidental and does not require a whistle even if there are multiple bodies on the floor. Despite what you are hearing at camp, that is acceptable under the right circumstances in the NCAAM and NFHS games.

Originally Posted by mu4scott

After pausing the play and looking at the lead officials position when the "crash" occured he has the same angle as we do (his lack of hustle duelly noted).

Great job of recognizing the troublesome position of the official at the time of the critical play, and some really cool work in freezing and positng the video frame!
This is what is called getting straight-lined. The official is lined up with the two players such that he cannot see between them. Thus he has no angle to see or judge any contact that may occur. This official has a very poor position from which to try to make a decision on this play. Learn from his mistake and work hard for proper angles on possible contact situations.