It is something of a HTBT, but I'd call her safe because it is an appeal play.
Some of you already know this, but I also subscribe to the survivability factor. Now that doesn't mean she doesn't have to touch the plate...and I won't call the "neighborhood" play at any base (particularly second), but survivability is, IMHO, important, including in the play as described. However, survivability is NOT aimed toward appeasing the fans in the stands or even the coaches in the dugout.
In the play described there was no appeal by the catcher, and the runner retouched before any appeal was made. Based on the info at hand, I'd rule safe...and have no qualms nor any problems with my conscience. (Well, not any more than usual.
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