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Originally posted by ref1bal
I'm not that young I'm a 5 Year referee though young in age (not yet 21) and a national league referee (3rd highest in my country)
the thing is I feel I would only be promoted if I stay out of trouble i.e not Piss coaches and players off by hitting T's.
this year I had a few incidents that resulted in letters being sent to the managment.
these obviously didn't seem well to them - I even got a talk over about it.
so what should I do be the nice guy or continue doing what I think is my job?
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I still wouldn't change anything I wrote. Although you think you're not that young, you are. 20 years old is very, very young in the life of an official. As you get older, you'll mature and gain experience, not only in officiating but in life.
Whether you're right or wrong is of no consequence. If you're getting letters written about you and getting called in for a talk, you need to back off.
Also, you're asking the wrong question, "so what should I do be the nice guy or continue doing what I think is my job?" That's the wrong way to look at it. You need to ask, "How can I change my game, stay out of trouble, yet still do my job?" And there's no easy answer. But here's a few things:
1- Learn how to talk to coaches and diffuse situations, rather than inflaming them. A T is not always the answer. Ignore them and don't make eye contact. It's time to call a T, when everybody in the building understands why it needs to be called.
2- Rather than whacking a player for saying something to you, just tell the coach, "I need you're help with 22. It's going to hurt your team if he doesn't be quiet." Put the burden on the coach. Then when 22 gets one, it's no surprise. Or, go to 22 and tell him, "Knock it off or you're gonna get into trouble!"
3- Don't get yourself into trouble by calling minor little infractions that no one else in the building sees. Most officials first learn "what to call." Then, they learn "what not to call." With only 5 years experience, you may not realize it, but you're still learning "what to call" and haven't gotten to "what not to call." That's not a slam, it's just a fact for most officials. And if you're staying in the soup, it sounds like it applies to you.
Hope that helps!