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You have to GIVE respect in order to get respect.
That's exactly right and exactly what I said.
However, don't turn it around and say that if we expect respect from players we have to show it to them first — that's not how it works.
Respect is earned -- if a player hasn't done anything to earn my respect, then he doesn't have it. That is the point.
If the players sense that you are arrogant and not friendly and not approachable in your pregame, how in the world can you expect them to RESPECT you.
This is besides the point. When we are dealing with high school (and lower level) students, why in the world should we consider their perspective? (That is, what they "sense") Teenagers do well enough to sense what is going on with themselves than to have an opinion on me.
Besides that, if they do sense that I am being arrogant, etc., does that give them the right to be disrespectful? No. THEY need to continue to show respect regardless of whether or not they like our calls or anything else going on in the game.
JRut - i usually agree with your officiating philosophies and your rule interpretations, but by you acting like players owe you respect just b/c you're the boss man you are making it harder for everyone else who tries to utilize the "good eggs" to help keep the "bad apples" from ruining the entire game.
I'm going to come to Rut's defense here because I think that (what you just wrote) is plain wrong.
How can people read into Rut's original posting that he is trying to be arrogant and disrespectful and acting like a big shot?!? He was trying to take care of a problem player without issuing a technical foul and was met with the response (from an assistant coach, no less) that he should show the player respect, too.
What a bunch of crap.
The coach needs to handle HIS player and not worry about what Rut is doing (if I had my guess, nothing other than officiating the game).
If Rut was trying to act like a big shot he would have just tossed the kid or at least given him a technical.
Are officials supposed to be gutless and pansies?!? I don't think so...
There are authority figures in life -- cops, your boss, your parents, etc. Officials also fall into those categories. You should give those people respect whether you think that they deserve it or not -- or you will have to deal with the consequences. (Imagine not showing respect to your boss and the impact that would have on your job, for example)
We can't improve sportsmanship if we think that an adult official needs to show respect to a 16 year old player before that player should act correctly.
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