Just on observation but:
I believe too many of our fellow officials have what's commonly known as "Rabbit Ears".
They will be quick to give a T for what a coach said rather than how a coach acts.
It amazes me that some officials can even quote these long drawn out conversations of what a coach is saying too them.
Heck, if it's not a short "chip" I don't even pay attention to them. The same goes for when we talk to them, keep it short. There is no need for a long winded conversation.
Now, Hawk's Coach, don't tell your brothern that I'm not paying attention...because they probably think I am...I'm running down the court shaking my head as if I am taking it all in, when in actuality their statements are going through one ear and out the other.
BUT, if a Coach is acting in an unsportsmanlike manner...i.e. "showing me up"...he has a very short rope.
Someone said it is about credability...they are exactly right! You will lose the respect of the opposing coaches not to mention the fans, players and fellow officials for letting a coach get away with actions that demean your officiating.
In short, Whack um for what they do...not so much what they say. (don't let those ears get too big.)
Dan