[kiwiref]

Dear Smurf
I am writing this although I suspect that your post was made just to went some steam, rather than to discuss an issue.
Given that many before me have offered valuable and valid advice, I will offer a slightly different view of things.
Your first option is simply to move to another area! Move somewhere where refs are doing a much better job. If at first you fail, keep moving until you find a place where the referees are doing their job the way you approve of. I have no idea where that may be, but good luck searching.