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Old Fri Dec 14, 2001, 03:15pm
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Originally posted by Hawks Coach
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Originally posted by Dan_ref
[QUOTEI do not think refusing to shake a player's hand on the floor is inconsiderate or ungracious. It's the thing to do. You want to shake my hand then chase me down as I'm running to the lockers after the game & do it in private.
I am saying that if dev had not thought out an appropriate response to a player who offers her hand, he risks looking stupid by standing there staring at it and not acknowledging it. It is the appearance that I am referring to, not that the ref is being ungracious or inconsiderate. It can have the affect of undermining your authority. But you can't throw out a T to a player who wants to shake your hand. And since you aren't leaving the floor in the situation dev outlined, running away quickly is not an option. So shaking the hand may have put him at risk for the follow on showmanship, but it was the player's next actions that caused the problem. If they choose to use an act of graciousness as a device to show you up, WHACK!!!
Not that I want to beat this to death but before or after
a game I'll shake anybody's hand who offers me theirs.
During the game if a player or coach offers me his hand to
shake I'll tell them no & walk away. I may or may not
smile as I shake my head no, depending on how I feel.
That's *my* pre-thought out appropriate response to this
type of thing. For the very few times a hand is offered I
might look like a jerk. But I'll be looking like an
impartial jerk, and a player will never do to me what
happened to our friend here.
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