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Originally posted by thereluctantref
I know that this is probably very subjective but what kind of comments are acceptable and unacceptable from a coach? I know that some coaches like to "work" the referees but I was wondering when their comments overstep the boundary. I have some examples below and could you tell me which are acceptable and not?
1. "What kind of call was that?"
2. "You've got to be kidding me!"
3. "C'mon ref, you have to call it both ways!"
4. "1, 2, 3" (counting 3 seconds for you)
5. "Oh! That wasn't a foul!"
I know that some comments are more neutral, like when coaches point out violations, like calling out traveling or double dribbles, but I was wondering about if these are ever acceptable.
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THERELUCTANTREF, arguing (in the topic of this thread) is never OK with me. But the
WAY the coach says any of these is as important as
WHAT the coach says. I agree with most everyone when it comes to ignoring these types of comments. If at all possible...ignore all of these. There have also been a few posts that point out that you can acknowledge what the coach is saying. I totally agree...this can take a lot of his / her frustration away. As stated by others, a simple phrase like, "Ok coach, I'll watch for it.", and many others can really help.
On the other hand, I can see how any of the above phrases might result in an automatic "T" under the right circumstances. Imagine, again, the coach is saying any one of the above phrases to you. But this time you are opposite the table and he / she is yelling it across the court while waving their arms in the air. That might warrant a more punitive response from me (yes, I'm talking about a T)...even if no warning had been given yet.
I think you and Rut both identified that dealing with coaches is very subjective. I think you just have to develop a "feel" for when it's OK to talk to the coach, when it's time to stop talking, and when it's time to call the infraction and issue the T. And the only way I know to developp this "feel" is to just keep working more and more games. Good luck.
RPirtle