[Rick82358]

Some great points for officials and coaches were made thus far- Some cheap shots were taken too.
here is the point I would like to make -
by description yes it should have probably been an intentional foul call - I didn't see it - what I did see from your writing is this, - you need to teach you kids to hold them selves together better. I do not care how hard you are fouled you do not react - your get up and walk away.
When I coached not one of my kids would have ver reacted that way.
As far as dealing with the officials a quiet word at the bench would have been the best way. But you might have wanted to have that with the officials a long time prior to this. Since the officials had mailed this game in awhile ago based on the description given about their mechanics.

Officials no matter the level have no steak in the score other than somebody wins (eventually). They do however owe it to the players and fans to not mail it in because this is where trouble starts.
coaches need to work with the referees where possible - this would be one of those times. A quite word to the refs about making sure that we don't have problems with hard fouls probably would have been sufficient in this case - and prudent.
I see a lot of blame to go aroud here.