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Imeadski, I'm not disappointed in you because I think you're only-a-coach-who-comes-to-this-forum-looking-for-validation-and-whines kind of a guy. I said I was disappointed because I know that you are an official. An official should know better. I am not disappointed that you shared your story. I am disappointed that an official has that perspective to share.
I believe that most coaches are honest-to-goodness good people. I appreciate that they/you are taking the time to work with young people. I value the contributions they/you are making to society. I really do. But one of the requirements of being a "good" coach is understanding that you have a perspective and view on things that *changes* when you have a rooting interest. It just is so. I know because I used to coach a few years back. We remember all the missed travels on the other team but we don't remember the missed travels on our team. We remember the elbow that our player catches on the chin, but we don't jump up and holler at the official: "I can't believe that you're not going to call that! Did you see that? My player accidentally caught that player with her elbow. You've got to put a stop to all this nonsense because somebody is going to get hurt even though I know that my uncoordinated-and-still-growing-into-her-body center has not a single malicious bone in her body." We just don't say those things.
It's possible that the official kicked the call. It's also possible that the defensive player hustled back and that your player initiated the contact -- yes, the very contact that hurt her -- and the official decided not to bail her out.
Since a person who officiates knows that they want the benefit of the doubt when they walk into a gym because they have no stake in the outcome of the game, I'd just like to see us give those people (who, sometimes happen to be us!) the benefit of the doubt.
I *am* sorry that your player got hurt. I hope she's O.K.
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