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First of all. I am sorry that your player was injured.
We weren't there. We are only getting one side of the story.
I am assuming that the U11 means under 11 years old.
It is obvious that you are mad. It is obvious that you were mad when you made that statement to the ref.
Did you honestly think that if he allowed an intentional foul on your player that he/she would be the type that would admit his/her mistake and change the call when you complained in front of everyone?
Your players look up to you and will learn from your example.
What example do you want to set for your players?
What did you learn from this experience?
How will you change your practice and what will you teach your players from this experience. (have you considered making them wear mouth pieces?, those little plastic things that the football players wear?)
I have no answers for you. But the answers you are searching for, are inside of you.
If you waste the rest of the season complaining about the referees, that is what you will teach your kids. If you "take the high road" and insist that your kids do the best that they can. That's what they will learn.
You have more influence over these children than you realize. (you have little, or no influence over the referees you get)
(I ref little kids. When I see them fall down, they look up at me. I tell them to get up. Sounds rough. But its kind of like life. Actually, they get up and run down the court.) Sure, I blew the call. But, I am also trying to get up off the floor. Next time, I will be better.
When you make your decision to "get up" or "stay on the floor and look for pity", you are not only deciding for yourself, you are deciding for your players. You are helping them to learn that, "in life", they are going to encounter "bad refs" and "stabs in the back". When your players grow up, will they lay on the floor and look for pity? Or will they overcome every obstacle that life throws at them?
Sports are like life. You are helping to form the attitudes that these kids will take with them later in life.
You decide.
But, let me tell you. You will feel so proud when you see later that they have succeeded. And you will know it is because of how you coached them this year. (not because you poisioned your kids with hate because of a bad call).
[Edited by Time2Ref on Feb 12th, 2006 at 09:53 PM]
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