Crazy Voyager,
Sounds like a horrible, horrible game. I had a game that was considerably less horrible when I was first starting out that almost convinced me to give up officiating. And I was 35! I'm impressed that you handled it so well, and lived to tell
Just a couple of thoughts, admitedly based on an NFHS perspective. The Blue coach seems to me to be your biggest problem. Was there an assistant that was any better? If so, I would have thought about unloading the blue coach. Her "Don't talk to me" comment would have been a good opportunity. Of course, that would only be effective if you're reasonably hopeful that the assistant would get things back under control.
But when the coach told her players to stop playing D, and especially when she instructed her player to pass the ball to the other team, I think it's time for the game to be over. The coach is making a travesty of the game. Nothing good can come from this point onward. I don't know if FIBA rules allow you to do this, but I think it's probably the best thing for everybody.
Just something to think about.
Hang in there, you're next game is guaranteed to be better