Not that it will win me any fans on this board, but I hate the "I'm paid to ref, you're paid to coach" line. I would rather you skip that step and just go straight to the "stop sign" or even a T-bomb if you feel justified.
I must admit that everytime (maybe 5 times over the last 10 years) a ref has pulled the my job/your job argument on me I always say, "let me know when you're ready to start working." I fully expect to get a T for it, but I can't help myself - that line is the one that just gets under my skin.
In order, my coaching pet peaves(sp) are :
1) missed layups,
2) missed free throws,
3) my job/your job argument,
4) turnover
I realize you guys deal with whining coaches all the time, so my views are certainly not important, I'm just presenting my opinion from the other side.