[KenThree]

You're right. I posted here so I could rationalize and get called "cowardly and unethical". That's way over the line.

I guess I was hopeful that I would discuss a situation that we know we got wrong, point out how we got ourselves in deeper trouble and how we handled it. There's no beaming sence of pride in any of that.

As a crew, we came together, discussed what happened and moved on. Maybe you don't turn to your partners for help.

The old Lead, who was also the R, said the ball was at their disposal; I disagreed in the conversation, but had no clear knowledge that it wasn't at their disposal. We made a decision and moved on.

You live, you learn. Appreciate your kind words though.