The Difference is....
That we are all individuals who live in a country that is tolerant of disagreement.
I can totally accept where you are at with this Mark (and all other respondents.) I think we all establish our threshold early in the game (or whenever it is dictated by the reactive coach) and use a progressive response.
The difference is WHERE "we draw the line in the sand." AKA Judgement.
BTW: There are definitely some actions that require an instantaneous "T", such as "Loud, Profane Language".
The philosophy that sticks in my head is one offered to me by one of our local athletic directors. "I expect my coaches to maintain the same composure as the teachers in the classroom. The gym is the classroom." He also insisted that I report to him directly if I ever witnessed any of his coaches acting out of line.