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It's interesting that the other two new threads posted in the last 24 hours are coach-official questions, since I have a question on this topic, as well.
Last night I was supposed to have two "JV boys" games in the old gym, while the "Varisty boys" games were in the main gym. These JV boys games are usually fun since there are often several freshmen and 8th graders, and I am bdginning to feel pretty confident about my abilities at this level. But one of the partners in the main gym didn't show so I went over there, leaving a more experienced guy to work JV alone.
I was really pleased, since I have been doing quite a bit of Varsity boys in the last week and a half, and I hoped I could apply what I have learned and raise my level a little further. It was me that made the first call, and it was easy -- a very obvious PC -- but it didn't go over at all. Coach of team that fouled was very vocal about his displeasure, but I was going on about my business, when there was the need for another whistle against same team. Coach went ballistic. Comments were loud and almost "T" quality, not quite. I jogged past bench as the play went back down the floor, and said, "I heard you, coach" which was the only thing I could think of to acknowledge without discussion, but he continued to rail and rant.
Next play back the other way, my partner took advantage of a dead ball to talk to this coach. They are apparently good friends, and Partner was very effective in quieting him down and there were no more problems of any kind. In fact, coach was heard several times yelling at his guys, when I would make a call, "I told you, straight up!" "Tim, that's a travel every time!" "Vernon, just settle down!"
By the end of the game, the players on this team were talking very friendly with me, as were the players on the other team, and both coaches told me I did a good job. I had not held back on calls at all, nor had my partner. Both teams were in the double bonus by the end of each half, and the score was only a five point spread at the end of the game.
In post-game, my partner, who has always given me good criticism and advice in the past, told me that what I needed was to appear more confident and more in control. Everything else was great, according to him.
All this long lead-up to the real question: Can anyone tell me what outer appearances give a show of confidence? I felt very confident throughout the game. But that was on the inside. How do I LOOK as strong as I feel, or in some cases stronger than I feel? I know this is kind of an indefinable thing, but I am a word person and if there is another word person out there who could help me in words, I would really appreciate it.
[Edited by rainmaker on Jun 8th, 2001 at 05:45 PM]
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