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Originally posted by zebraman
Rut,
I have no doubt that you are civil and helpful to other officials in "real life." I have just never understood your reasons why you have to be so caustic and abrasive at times on this board. I have seen your reasons ("it's just a discussion board...it's not real".... etc.), I've just never understood them. Oh well, I have learned to use your quality stuff and ignore the rants and tangents.
Z
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I come here for different reasons than most. I do not come here to be liked. I do not come here to agree with everyone regardless of how stupid or ignit I feel their position is. I come here to state what the truth is as I know it and to share what we do where I live. Is that an oversimplification? Of course it is. But I do not say things that are safe just to make you happy. No one learns from that type of talk. If you do not have the stomach to hear the truth from people (whether you agree with it or not), then why are you here? When I ask question I want the truth or different opinions. I take what I think is good and I throw out what does not work or is not acceptable to me. At the end of the day I have to decide what works and I cannot get upset at anyone when I put myself out there. If that bothers you, it is just going to have to bother you. If we were ever going to meet, I would do the exact have the very same attitude with you. I would rather be hated for speaking my mind than hiding my true feelings and not help you one bit (and loved by all).
I gave a presentation in early November at a clinic about a couple of issues. I was just as blunt and straight forward as I am here. I received nothing but positive feedback and the veterans that saw the presentation never once told me to not say what I was saying or admonished me for hurting anyoneÂ’s feelings. I was just as straight forward in my presentation as I was with the questions that I was asked. I could not go 10 feet without someone trying to speak to me and satisfied with what I told them. I do not say that to say I am the greatest, far from it. I only say that to suggest that my style of delivery was exactly the same and people loved it. I guess it is just about where you come from and how you are raised. I have never had a problem with people being upfront with me. But I have always known people that get offended when people tell them things that are true or share their opinion openly. Whether that conversation is about race, officiating or politics, there are always people that get upset when someone says something to them outside of their personal feelings. If that upsets people, I can live with that.
It is better to be wrong here and right in the end.
Peace