[jumpmaster]

This thread has gone down the road of how to handle coaches and peoples feelings getting hurt...so because I love a good arguement, I will jump in with both feet...

Peter, internet umpiring (as opposed to actual umpiring which on occasion bore some remarkable resemblances to Iraq...) is not, has never, and will never even remotely similiar to combat. But you bring up a very GOOD point for all umpires to keep in mind. Our roles are similiar to police officers in that we never know when one of the coaches will turn on us and it is our responsibility to maintain order.

I have a good relationship with some of the coaches in the area. Call it mutual respect. But bottom line, every coach is loyal to HIS team first. We, as umpires, are not part of that team. We have our own team, our partner. When the $#!+ hits the fan, coach doesn't care about being buddy, buddy, coach cares about getting in your @$$. Your only back-up is your partner.

I don't shake hands with coaches, unless offered. I don't chit-chat with coaches. I have been approached in the parking lot with questions and I keep walking. But I always maintain my professionalism. I don't get or need to feel chummy with the coaches. That's why I am married...