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I have mixed feelings on this one. But what I, personally, am guided by is my belief in helping someone to the point that they help themselves. Considering that the kid is only 14, my job is to protect him too.
If I'm the PU, then I'm the UIC for that game, pure and simple. My job is to provide fair adjudication for the game, provide a safe haven for the kids, and to provide a learning environment for the BU in this case. That said, this situation would not have gotten this far. I always have a pre-game discussion with my partners, so that they will know what calls are theirs, and which are mine, and how to handle certain situations (mechanics). I also explain that judgement calls are entirely theirs, so that they know this up front. Through this discussion, I have a pretty good indication of the kind of person I'll be working with.
As the game progressed, at the first sign of disinterest by the BU (as written above), I would have had a discussion with him, even if I had to call time with him during a half-inning to do it. At this point, I make my position known that either he gets interested real fast, or he can excuse himself. If it came to my telling him to leave, outright, I would give him the opportunity to leave quietly, explaining that I would "cover" for him by telling the coaches that he was sick or something. While asking a partner to leave is my last resort, if I feel justified in doing it, I'll do it. This includes a parent who is volunteering, who I feel really isn't cutting it. I handle it very tactfully, but I certainly try to get across my concern early on, before a situation might arise as it did here. Luckily, I've never had to do anything like this, but I certainly can imagine the time when it will.
Now, putting myself in the position where you were, after the blown call, I handle things this way. I note to the coach that per LLB rule 9.02(a), objection to a judgement call isn't allowed, and I cut the discussion right there. This is to protect the 14 year old BU. If the coach had gone directly to the BU to "argue" the call, then I step in directly, and point out 9.02(a). I try not to let the situation get to a point where the call gets appealed to me. However, if it did, then the BU and I go aside and have our conversation away from the coaches and players (as much as possible). Unless I can add some point of fact that I feel he might not have been able to see (different angle, something heard, etc.) then we leave the call as is, and I explain to the coach that the call was made, and that I have nothing to offer to change it. If the coach then goes ballistic, then he's gone.
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