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			Thank you Dan.  My thoughts exactly.  Soldier - superior relationship is not the same as the ref - player relationship.  Also, ref-player relationship is not the same as a coach-player relationship. 
 
As for Rick, as was stated above, you can answer questions from players.  where I think a line was crossed is a ref to me appears to be lecturing or talking down to a HS age player.  That should not be done in this circumstance. 
 
As for my comments about the player.  Lets take this player, who has issues with attitude.  Yesterday he played a game, said something to a ref using his attitude, and he got Td.  His coach (me) says don't talk to refs - see what happens?  Today you start in on him with what he takes as an insult - this "do you understand" line of reasoning.  He is clearly po'd and knows from experience that he is best off not saying anything.  Is he wrong?
		 
		
		
		
		
		
		
		
		
	
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