|
"In the pre game I like to make it clear that it won't be tolerated."
I would NOT discuss this in a pre-game. Keep things positive in the conference.
What do you mean by arguing? Are they coming out and having a "discussion" with you at home plate during the game or between innings. If so, at that time you can inform them the subject is not open for discussion and then walk away.
If they are sniping at you from the dugout or coaches boxes then you have to accept a certain amount. Try to enjoy it. Sometimes coaches can get very inventive and humorous ("Bring em up, Blue - that's not a sand wedge she's holding.")
But if it gets too loud, or personal, or it starts to embolden players or fans, then you need to bring it under control.
I'd call time, pull out my lineup card, check the number of the batter, and then move over to the coach. The conversation might be as follows:
Uh, Coach, I want you to look at this lineup card with me, BUT we are not here to talk about the lineup. Keep looking at the card while I tell you that I am not going to tolerate any more of your carping at me. You know that you are not allowed to question my judgment calls and it has got to end. So tone it down Coach, or Ill be asking you for the name of your assistant coach cause youll be watching the rest of the game from the parking lot.
Coach: Yeah, well your strike zone sucks.
Me: We are not going to talk about any more Coach. Now smile (pointing at the lineup card) and agree with me that this is OK now, RIGHT COACH! Thanks!
You made it a private conversation. And you remained in control. You started the conversation, you made your point, and you ended it on your terms and then walked away. If he thinks about it, the coach will probably be happy that you didnt embarrass him in public.
WMB
|