[DJ]

There is nothing wrong with telling a coach about a player that in you opinion is about to cross the line. I would avoid demanding and try asking. Generally speaking coaches will appreciate your feedback. However there are other coaches that will try the power struggle issue. Personally I have used it at times and have received mixed results. Like most preventive officiating sometimes it works and sometimes it doesn't. One thing for sure if I decided not to give the T, that player or those players will have my attention for the next few minutes until they get a handle on their emotions. Like most preventive officiating there is no cure all that will work in all stiuations but the main thing is to address the issue quickly because if you don't call attention to the problem it will only get worse before it gets better. The last thing we want to do is to toss a player but if that is what the situation calls for then so be it. Sometimes we have an opportunity to handle it in other ways but sometimes our cards have already been dealt and so we do what we have to do!! It is all part of the experience factor and we need to try various approaches to tough situations and learn what works and develop our own style of officiating. When I was young I was confrontational and that worked for me but as I got older I have mellowed and now that works for me. I believe that what was done can work with some coaches and players but for others, well, they are difficult to deal with and will always be that way!