[Luv4Asian8]

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I know that this may have been posted in the past, but now that I have actually had to deal with it for the first time, I can actually pay attention, since it is now applicable to me.

The Situation: I (rookie, understanding that I'm the less exp official, and the "R" [which doesnt matter]) had been assigned a Girls JV with a much more exp college official ("know-it-all" ahem, sorry...and "U"). She arrives just 10 mins before gametime, which made me have to rush my pregame, a pregame that I used with many other officials with no prob: coverage, double-Ws, things I would like to work on personally, etc. She ridicules me "that's not how to do a pregame!" So I ask her how to do one. She comes back "havent you attended the meetings?!" "Yes, I have (underneath: where have you been?!)" And this goes on throughout the game: timeouts, deadballs, intermissions, etc. Definitely not a good way to "be on same page" or have "chemistry" with partner.

One foul (very obvious, never would be a 'no-call') was in her territory as T, and I, as L, held for a sec or two to see if she'd call it. Since we did have to maintain control over a sloppy game (blow out), I called it. During our 'post-game' she says that I was really late on that call. There was even an instance during a timeout where she came to me and said, "i'll just work on my college game, you just work on your HS game." This really started getting me heated up inside.

But overall, I think THE GAME went well, in the 'officiating' sense, even though the players was getting a lil sloppy because of the blowout situation.

Most of you know me already through my threads; I am very open-minded, very willing to take constructive criticisms for ANY mistakes I made. I write a self-eval after each game and gather all info (good/bad) from the more exp officials I work with to learn and make myself a better official and person. But this official made it VERY DIFFICULT for me to learn from her. Since I know that arguing officials on the court is EXTREMELY DISGRACEFUL, I kept my cool, even though as mentioned, was boiling inside.

How would have you handled it? What could I have done better? Thanks...