[theboys]

I can understand the desire to file charges, but I would first seek non-litigious avenues of reconciliation. As soon as possible, write down the specifics of the situation. Ask your partner to do the same. Then, meet with your assignor, again as soon as possible, to discuss the events and possible solutions. Then, with your assignor, contact the school, and have a meeting with the principal, the AD (if one exists) and the home coach. Tell them basically what Jurassic told the school officials in the first instance - that your association will no longer officiate games for the school unless action is taken. I would further tell them that if anything remotely resembling the incident happens again you will file charges, and the school and the program will appear in newspapers and websites nationwide. Nothing like adverse publicity to make a school administrator take notice.

I think parents/fans would respond much more positively if they were redressed by school officials. That way, it puts the school on your side, as well. If you pursue legal remedies, the school doesn't have to take a stand, per se, so the parent does feel like its a revenge situation. With the school driving the action, it takes on a more "official" role.

Good luck. As a reformed hothead, I'm truly sorry you suffered this kind of abuse. Just, remember, its not your fault.