[mikesears]

My problem was that I warned this guy several times and didn't back it up. I'm really angry with myself for sounding like one of those parents who threatens but never backs it up. I should have banged him right there as the head coach when he was out of control. When he was the assistant, I probably should have talked to the head coach about this guy too. Next time I know.

One of the refs in my association likes to go up to the head coach (with the assistant sitting right there) in these situations and say (without even looking at the assistant), "Coach I don't want to hear anymore from your assistant. He's here to assist you coach, not ride the officials. If he addresses me about anything other than to signal 30 or full time-out, he gets a technical, you get an indirect, and loose the right to stand up here and talk. Now please get him under control!"