[AtlUmpSteve]

I don't stand there with my hand up, holding up the pitcher; I consider that micromanaging. Let the players play the game, at their pace, with us managing only when they violate.

If the pitcher waits, there was no need to manage her.

If the pitcher pitches before the batter has had a chance to get set, it's "no pitch", and I tell the pitcher she cannot pitch before the batter has had a chance to get set. For the most part, they will then wait long enough. If she does it repetitively, I advise her (and her coach) the next violation will be her last opportunity to continue in the game. I've never needed to get past that point.

If you aren't managing what doesn't need to be managed, there is no issue to your question.