Advice Needed

[Kansas Ref]

Originally Posted by griblets

I couldn't disagree more. Behaving in a non-professional manner like this will only hurt your reputation, not to mention that it is a bad example to display in front of the youth.

*In life there are certain "teachable moments" for us all. In the case of this Poster, it has nothing to do with reputation, but rather "respect" for doing what is right--i.e., most effective in solving the problem.

First, if your goal is to help the guy, talk to him, focusing less on his officiating and more on his ability to receive constructive criticism. Based on your description, he is likely to reject your input. At that point, you've done all you can to help him, so save your advice for someone that wants to hear it.

*Excuse me, but did you not read and comprehend the what the Poster wrote? He has already tried the "counseling/constructive criticism" approach which was proven to be ineffectual. You furthermore state that "you've done all you can do to help him...". NO you have not done all you can do--what you need to do is to call him out. Kids care about what is right not what looks "kosher".

Second, talk to your assignor. Let him know your experience with this official. If the assignor doesn't know there's a problem, he doesn't have an opportunity to fix it.

*Talking to the assigner at a Ymca youth league does nothing but attempt a vain effort to "transfer" your problem to someone else. In this case, a more direct approach is called for.

Finally, simply reject the assignments.
*This is the Absolute Worst thing you could ever want to do. Why should this man be surrendering a chance to make money just because he's partnered with an obsinate ref? In other words--why does the jerk's problem have to interfere with his own well-being and satisfication in Life? I hope this is not how you deal with problems in your own life.

Good luck.

*In life there are certain "teachable moments" for us all. In the case of this Poster, it has nothing to do with reputation, but rather "respect" for doing what is right--i.e., most effective in solving the problem.

*This is the Absolute Worst thing you could ever want to do. Why should this man be surrendering a chance to make money just because he's partnered with an obsinate ref? In other words--why does the jerk's problem have to interfere with his own well-being and satisfication in Life? I hope this is not how you deal with problems in your own life.

*And finally, don't wish this man "good luck" as you are signing off of your post---"good luck" has nothing at all to do with solving the problem. What you should be saying is encouraging him to have and practice "good courage".