Been there man!! The worst thing is kicking yourself after because you feel like you let it get out of control. In reality, if you would have blown your whistle more it may have cleaned up a bit, but it still would have remained ugly. But don't let that stop you from calling fouls. It is much easier to live with yourself if you can say, hey, at least I tried. Just keep improving, as we all know this is not an easy job. Oh, and its been said at this point, but don't let that coach get over on you. How can you expect the kids to respect you if you allow their coach to disrespect you like that?

I have been officiating for over 30 years. I have worked many games with my son but we weren't starting out together. It is always fun. He has moved away but we always get together a couple of times a year to work a varsity game somewhere.

Concerning rough play, you need to take control of the game. Last Friday the teams played extremely well and we called only 12 fouls until the last two minutes when one team fouled often while behind late in the game.

Monday night, same officials, called 50 fouls. The difference was that Monday the teams wanted to reach, not move their feet on defense and push a lot. We call what we see.

No complaints either night. The coaches all knew what was going on.

Keep your chin up--it will get better. Promise.

I thank you for your replys and am taking it all as great advise.
In Ohio if the coach is ejected from the game they have to leave the gym and cannot be a spectator at all....they are not allowed to coach the next 2 games but are allowed to spectate from the bleachers...they cannot be involved in coaching in any way....they must pay 100 bucks to get reinstated and do a online management class..I guess a technical should shut a coach up pretty quick.

Here's a piece of advice. Don't worry about subsequent penalties. They should have nothing to do with how you handle a situation on the court.