Let me clarify the situation on my player being touched

[mplagrow]

I not only ref, but I teach 8th grade girls. Even the ones I think I know, the ones who I have known for four years, will surprise me with what they do and don't tell me. And it can change in a heartbeat too. One day they tell me everything, the next their mom calls me and says, "Natalie would kill me if she knew I told you this. . ." At any rate, you can't make any blanket statements about what they would and would not say or do.