Was I wrong

[John Chladek]

As a father/fan/coach, I think a word of advice to the PG was commendable. But to answer a question that wasn't asked, I think a ref should do one thing (quietly offer advice/teaching), OR the other (call the violation/foul), but NEVER both. If you call a violation, any explaining should be done to the coach. We had a situation earlier in the year in a girls HS F/S game where we were trying to foul at the end of a game. The ref didn't call the first 2 attempts, so one of our sophomores fouled hard. The ref called this one, and then lectured the girl that she could hurt someone playing like that. It took all my self control to not scream at him that if he would have called the first 2, she wouldn't have had to foul harder (I know this topic is covered in a different thread)! It took 2 weeks to get that girl back to the proper level of aggressiveness on the court.