Update and thank you

[DownTownTonyBrown]

Great job ewiar/Joel! You have used, and hopefully learned, a very powerful social skill. Hopefully you have learned from your evaluator's actions also.

Sometimes an evaluator's actions are meant to test your fortitude and social skills. Think back. What you got lambasted for was likely not your personality but rather an act/mechanic that you did on the court. You did well to get over it, learn the proper mechanic, and not bite back at the evaluator. No yeah buts. And you passed the lambasting test. No only did you prove your character but you have likely added a new temperance quality. Job well done! Sounds like you have also earned the respect of the evaluator... he remembered your name; he gave you praise.

Ride on that high into your next game. Show your confidence. Make your calls with certainty. Somewhere down the line you will be undeservedly lambasted again... hold your tongue just as you did before. If you ever feel things slipping away go back to your basic mechanics. Concentrate on your primary area - not the ball. After that, work on supporting your partner... use his name, give him some praise, tell him he made a good call and do it all in front of the players. Not only will they have more confidence in your partner, they will also have more confidence in you.