Based on how I read it, the snub happened, then the OP tried to answer a question.

Agree,
I'm a black and white flash once the game is over. 5 seconds is as long as I'm in the gym in most cases, the only thing I wait for is my partners. I never look around as I'm heading out either, eyes straight forward. If I end up with the ball at the end of the game, which is rare, it is placed where I'm at.

That was the way I read it too, but it wasn't clear that the OP recognized it at that time or when he was reviewing it after the fact. Neither are great but I'm not going to assume he immediately recognized the disrespect and then continued to have a dialog with the coach. I'm just as inclined to believe he wasn't really paying attention to what the coach was saying/doing until afterwards.

Exactly. My response to the coach when he had the same issues before was, "i don't know what you're talking about but thank you" and that was the end of it. I then realized later after i put all the pieces together what he was saying.

I have a question.

How did you see the "questionable" travel you partner called as trail across the paint from your location?

Okay, two questions:

How do you know his violation on the shooting team was questionable?

I saw the "travel" because I was starting moving ball side when it happened because he had a wide open layup and a defender coming down the lane to defend it so I moved to try to be in position for any potential call.

For the violation, he called it on a player that I was responsible for.

Fair enough.

But was he right?

don't bother answering questions from coaches (asst. coach or otherwise) that were asked previously during the game. all you're doing is starting a conversation (aka "opening up a can of worms") that has no real benefit to you....if they REALLY want to know, they'll ask you again and you can answer then.

as for the post-game with your partner on the plays described above, here's my suggestion: "I don't know if you had a problem w/ team "x" last week or not, but either way - do not make those calls in my area again. i do not need your help. if there was a travel and a lane violation, i would have called it. best of luck. safe travels home".

much like the coach who is always yelling at officials and doesn't stay in the coaches box, if you never penalize it - he'll keep doing it. if you do not say anything at all to your partner, you can be assured that he'll do that again (either to you or someone else)...