Are There Any Boards Out There Who Have Committee's For The Wife's Of Officials?

Love2ref4Ever · #1 (**permalink**) Sun Aug 04, 2002, 07:50pm

I am interested in formulating a committee for the wife's of officials and I need some guidance with this project.The purpose of this committee would be for the wife's of veteran officials to share there expierence with the wife's of newer officials.For example: What to expect during the basketball season? This committee can also act as a support group for the wife' of officials. Is there anyone who may have some suggestions or information to pass along to me? I would just be involved with help formulating the group and that's that!

BktBallRef · #2 (**permalink**) Sun Aug 04, 2002, 11:12pm

Not trying to be ugly but I think the word you're looking for is wives, not wife's.

And, no, we don't have such a group in our organization.

pizanno · #3 (**permalink**) Mon Aug 05, 2002, 02:45am

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Originally posted by Love2ref4Ever
The purpose of this committee would be for the wife's of veteran officials to share there expierence with the wife's of newer officials.For example: What to expect during the basketball season? This committee can also act as a support group for the wife' of officials. Is there anyone who may have some suggestions or information to pass along to me? I would just be involved with help formulating the group and that's that!

"can someone please organize a group of women to tell my wife how to deal with my officiating schedule?"

....maybe your wife should organize it.

Remember:

1. Family comes first, job comes second
2. Maintain balance
3. Never, ever choose a game over bdays and anniversaries!

Also...spell check is a wonderful thing

Love2ref4Ever · #4 (**permalink**) Mon Aug 05, 2002, 06:58am

Wow. it's nice to know that a couple of my fellow officials were so kind as to point out to me that I used the word "wife's" instead of"wives." And one even suggested to use spell check! Thanks for responding to the post though, I guess you guys don't miss anything during a game.

secondyear · #5 (**permalink**) Mon Aug 05, 2002, 07:41am

If you wanted to create a support group, how about one for all spouses, not just the wives.

At this time, I have yet to see a support group of any type for the spouses. It seems that some of the long time officials have had very understanding spouses. Wives and husbands.

As it was mentioned before, family comes first.

mick · #6 (**permalink**) Mon Aug 05, 2002, 07:48am

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Originally posted by Love2ref4Ever
I am interested in formulating a committee for the wife's of officials and I need some guidance with this project.The purpose of this committee would be for the wife's of veteran officials to share there expierence with the wife's of newer officials.For example: What to expect during the basketball season? This committee can also act as a support group for the wife' of officials. Is there anyone who may have some suggestions or information to pass along to me? I would just be involved with help formulating the group and that's that!

Love2,
Well, now....
My wife isn't really that interested in my playtime, although she enjoys all the sports I work.
Her comments are generally of this nature:

I thought you had a game.

What time is your game?

Is your uniform ready?

Your game shoes are shinier than your dress shoes.

Who are you working with tonight?

Have fun.

Oh, you're early.

How did it go?

That's about the cumulative total of her concern.
Of the above comments, I usually get only one or two of them per game. The only one with any regularity is the last. If she's home when I leave, I almost always get a "Have fun."

The updated schedule is always on the fridge where kids drawings used to be, so she'll have an idea of where I am, ...if she wonders at all.

mick

zebraman · #7 (**permalink**) Mon Aug 05, 2002, 09:36am

If you do it, make it for spouses and not just wives... and maybe girlfriends/boyfriends too.

But as Mick said, there really isn't much to it. This isn't like someone is getting divorced or anyone died. "Honey, I have a game at 7:00 tonight. I'll be going there straight from work and then home by 9:00. You want me to stop and get anything on the way home? By the way, my schedule is on the fridge if you forget what I just said." :-)

Reffing is like any other activity that married people do. If it's done in moderation and has the support of the spouse, no problem. If it's done too much, get the lawyer's phone number handy.

Z

BktBallRef · #8 (**permalink**) Mon Aug 05, 2002, 09:59am

Here something you might want to try. I make a calendar with one of the Print Shop programs. On it, I post all scrimmages, games, clinics, etc. so that she knows exactly where'll be, on what nights, and at what time. Saves a lot of headaches.

Brian Watson · #9 (**permalink**) Mon Aug 05, 2002, 10:26am

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Originally posted by BktBallRef
Here something you might want to try. I make a calendar with one of the Print Shop programs. On it, I post all scrimmages, games, clinics, etc. so that she knows exactly where'll be, on what nights, and at what time. Saves a lot of headaches.

I have somehting similar to this, we use a dry erase calendar and I put all my meetings, games, etc up there.

And, taking the sig. other away after the season helps too..

JRutledge · #10 (**permalink**) Mon Aug 05, 2002, 10:29am

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Originally posted by Love2ref4Ever
Wow. it's nice to know that a couple of my fellow officials were so kind as to point out to me that I used the word "wife's" instead of"wives." And one even suggested to use spell check! Thanks for responding to the post though, I guess you guys don't miss anything during a game.

secondyear · #11 (**permalink**) Mon Aug 05, 2002, 10:43am

I email my schedule to my husband so he can enter it into his palm pilot.

rainmaker · #12 (**permalink**) Mon Aug 05, 2002, 11:37am

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Originally posted by secondyear
If you wanted to create a support group, how about one for all spouses, not just the wives.

At this time, I have yet to see a support group of any type for the spouses. It seems that some of the long time officials have had very understanding spouses. Wives and husbands.

As it was mentioned before, family comes first.

Thganks, secondyear, for thinking of us women officials and our spouses. However, I don't want my husband meeting you-alls wives... And especially not during the season ( nor June!)...

Love2ref4Ever · #13 (**permalink**) Mon Aug 05, 2002, 12:56pm

The purpose of this group would be to have veteran officials wives/husbands pass along information to the newer officials wives/husbands. I don't think newer officials wives/husbands have a clue about what a officials life is really like, and may need to be orientated by someone who knows what to expect. I think making there officiating game schedule available to there wives/husbands is a great idea, that I may start doing in my home. Rainmaker, How come you don't want you're husband to interact with the wives of officials in you're area?

rainmaker · #14 (**permalink**) Mon Aug 05, 2002, 01:49pm

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Originally posted by Love2ref4Ever
Rainmaker, How come you don't want you're husband to interact with the wives of officials in your area?

I was sort of joking, and forgot th smilie.

It's just that I'm gone so much during the season, I don't want him spending time with any lonely females. But I guess that's not really a very funny joke!

Mark Padgett · #15 (**permalink**) Mon Aug 05, 2002, 07:55pm

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Originally posted by rainmaker

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Originally posted by Love2ref4Ever
Rainmaker, How come you don't want you're husband to interact with the wives of officials in your area?

I was sort of joking, and forgot th smilie.

It's just that I'm gone so much during the season, I don't want him spending time with any lonely females. But I guess that's not really a very funny joke!

Juulie- there's at least one guy we know in the local association you probably wouldn't want him around either.

PS - it's that guy I once mentioned to you that looked like a female official when I saw him on TV and you said you weren't surprised.

Not that there's anything wrong with that.