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fullor30 Mon Mar 17, 2008 11:23am

Anybody know a good lawyer
 
Doing an end of the year girls feeder tournament this past weekend, seventh grade game. Foul on red, red player takes ball looks the other way and discards ball in the corner as I'm waiting for it under the basket six feet from her, I call her number and point to the ball, saying nothing, she retrieves it, I say thank you.

After game Mom approaches me and ask why I did that. Being slow on the uptake, I start to respectfully explain and am met with "Next time you do that, I sue you"

Have a good day Ma'am.

vbzebra Mon Mar 17, 2008 11:30am

Surprised you didn't "T" the disrespectful kid right away! You have more patience than I do apparently:eek:

Mark Padgett Mon Mar 17, 2008 11:31am

How about this guy? I heard he was pretty good.

http://g-ecx.images-amazon.com/image...._AA240_.L.jpg

Adam Mon Mar 17, 2008 11:33am

Wow. I would have laughed at her, assuming she was joking.

TheOracle Mon Mar 17, 2008 12:08pm

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Originally Posted by fullor30
Doing an end of the year girls feeder tournament this past weekend, seventh grade game. Foul on red, red player takes ball looks the other way and discards ball in the corner as I'm waiting for it under the basket six feet from her, I call her number and point to the ball, saying nothing, she retrieves it, I say thank you.

After game Mom approaches me and ask why I did that. Being slow on the uptake, I start to respectfully explain and am met with "Next time you do that, I sue you"

Have a good day Ma'am.

Tell her good luck with that. As a lawyer, people who makes those comments need to be punished. It is ruining our country.

budjones05 Mon Mar 17, 2008 12:10pm

What state do you live in. I may be able to assist you.

rockyroad Mon Mar 17, 2008 01:23pm

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Originally Posted by fullor30
"Next time you do that, I sue you"
.


My response: "For what? Trying to teach your daughter some sportsmanship?"

fullor30 Mon Mar 17, 2008 01:27pm

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Originally Posted by vbzebra
Surprised you didn't "T" the disrespectful kid right away! You have more patience than I do apparently:eek:

It wasn't egregious, She knew what she did wrong( I hope, as her mother didn't have a clue). I mentioned it to the coach who couldn't believe it, siding with me.

Probably just my Catholic upbringing, as a kid, I was always guilty until proven innocent if any authority figure said anything to my parents.

"Get over here, Sister Mary Agnes just called and you're in a heap of trouble.".........

fullor30 Mon Mar 17, 2008 01:28pm

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Originally Posted by budjones05
What state do you live in. I may be able to assist you.

Barrister Bud..........just a head line grabber;)

fullor30 Mon Mar 17, 2008 01:30pm

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Originally Posted by Mark Padgett
How about this guy? I heard he was pretty good.

http://g-ecx.images-amazon.com/image...._AA240_.L.jpg

Is that an approved mechanic he's using?

budjones05 Mon Mar 17, 2008 01:33pm

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Originally Posted by fullor30
Barrister Bud..........just a head line grabber;)


I stand corrected

Brad Mon Mar 17, 2008 01:34pm

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Originally Posted by Snaqwells
I would have laughed at her...

...whether she was joking or not.

JRutledge Mon Mar 17, 2008 01:36pm

Check your PM, I have one for you (seriously).

Peace

Adam Mon Mar 17, 2008 01:40pm

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Originally Posted by Brad
...whether she was joking or not.

Yup.

fullor30 Mon Mar 17, 2008 01:47pm

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Originally Posted by JRutledge
Check your PM, I have one for you (seriously).

Peace

Just replied, thanks

Mark Padgett Mon Mar 17, 2008 02:06pm

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Originally Posted by fullor30
Is that an approved mechanic he's using?

Yeah, it's the new one for illegal use of hearsay.

Coltdoggs Mon Mar 17, 2008 02:11pm

I might take you up on the lawyer need...

5th/6th Rec Championship this Sat. I'm L, have a held ball in front of me...TWEET...I point to the other end of the court...kids are still fighting over the ball and white player ends up on the floor. It was one of those where he was trying so hard to rip the ball away he flung himself on the floor....He's now acting as if he's working on winning an Oscar Award for best drama.... Claimed the other kid choked him! :confused: I didn't see anything like this happening, my partner didn't have anything.......Well, his coach comes out on the floor followed by his dad to check on him...coach is a good guy and simply asked me what happened...I told him, he said, agreed he didn't see anything crazy going on other than two guys going for the ball....They check on him, kid is fine after about :60 of the drama....dad looks up at me and says "That's a flagrant A$$ foul!"....:eek:

I looked at him and calmly said, "Sir, if you'd like to watch the rest of the game from outside in the parking lot, I can accomdate you". He left the floor without further incident but it let me know that my fellow league directors need to address parents entering the playing floor to check up on Lil' Johnny next season. Trust me when I say it will be in our legue rules and code of conduct that they must be beckoned by the coach or Board Member on duty in the gym.

Adam Mon Mar 17, 2008 02:13pm

5th and 6th grade game? Dad gets an escort for this. Letting him on the court is one thing, berating an official afterwards is too far; IMO.

Coltdoggs Mon Mar 17, 2008 02:50pm

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Originally Posted by Snaqwells
5th and 6th grade game? Dad gets an escort for this. Letting him on the court is one thing, berating an official afterwards is too far; IMO.

I did send a letter today to my league President, VP, the 5/6 Commish and a guy who is Past President and handles legal matters for the league. I'm on the board so I felt obligated to say something but needed to keep my cool...I was thinking "Flagrant, no, Flagrant would be me tossing your A$$ out!" :D

As a parent, I understand he was concerned for his kid....I get that....But like I told the board...if cool heads didn't prevaill from this dad...we all have heard and seen bad things happen in these situations and next year it will be written in our league rules and code of conduct that the only way they will enter the court is by being beckoned by the coach or member from our board.....

Mark Padgett Mon Mar 17, 2008 03:56pm

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Originally Posted by Coltdoggs
dad looks up at me and says "That's a flagrant A$$ foul!"....

I called one of those once but got in trouble when I demonstrated the mechanic! :eek:

Coltdoggs Mon Mar 17, 2008 06:49pm

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Originally Posted by Mark Padgett
I called one of those once but got in trouble when I demonstrated the mechanic! :eek:

Don't you mean FLATULENT A$$ Foul? ;)

Back In The Saddle Mon Mar 17, 2008 06:57pm

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Originally Posted by Coltdoggs
Don't you mean FLATULENT A$$ Foul? ;)

I thought he meant FRAGRANT. :eek:

Mark Padgett Mon Mar 17, 2008 07:45pm

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Originally Posted by Coltdoggs
Don't you mean FLATULENT A$$ Foul? ;)

No, that's just a violation - since it just involves loss of possession. :rolleyes:

BillyMac Mon Mar 17, 2008 09:02pm

Try To Stop Me ...
 
All three of my children played sports; soccer, basketball, baseball, softball, track, cross country, and gymnastics, at many levels, recreation, travel, middle school, AAU, high school, and college.

If my 5th, or 6th, grade child, appeared to be seriously hurt, I wouldn't wait to be "beckoned" onto the court, I would go to my child right away, however, I would be tending to my child, not critiquing the official.

From middle school up, I might be more patient, with first-aid certified coaches, and trainers present, but if it was a really serious injury, like a compound fracture, I don't think that I could stop myself.

As a middle school basketball coach for over 25 years, if one of my players, or an opposing player, got hurt, I never waited to be "beckoned", I was on the floor tending to player immediately. Never received a technical for this, and if I ever had, well, then, so be it. It would have been worth the penalty.

And if you disagree with me, I can bet that you're either not a parent, or not the parent of an athlete. That's my story, and I'm sticking to it.

Adam Mon Mar 17, 2008 10:33pm

Billy, you have every right to do what you suggest you would. And I suspect a lot of parents might; especially at that level.

However, sometimes parents have to be willing to suffer consequences for actions they deem appropriate in spite of the rules. If I were running something like this rec league, and we had a rule like colt is proposing, I'd only enforce it if the parent became abusive towards the officials. IMO, this particular Dad may well have found himself in the parking lot without warning.

I'll give an example. 4 years ago this past fall, my younger brother had sarcoma in his chest. After the initial biopsy, they went in and cleared a little more space around the original tissue to ensure they had it all. The morphine sent him into respiratory arrest in the middle of that first night, and he was moved to ICU. The first night, Dad insisted he (or I) be allowed to stay in the ICU room with him, against hospital policy. They were going to refuse, but Dad called their bluff with the only hand he had. They were going to either let him stay or have him arrested. They acquiesced. My point, he knew their rules, and he didn't think they were necessarily bad. He was, however, prepared as a father to ignore them and do what he thought best for his son; even if there were consequences.

BTW, if your kid is seriously hurt, he's likely leaving the gym for treatment anyway, so being told to leave the gym would only be a formality.

SmokeEater Wed Mar 19, 2008 11:38am

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Originally Posted by Snaqwells
Billy, you have every right to do what you suggest you would. And I suspect a lot of parents might; especially at that level.

However, sometimes parents have to be willing to suffer consequences for actions they deem appropriate in spite of the rules. If I were running something like this rec league, and we had a rule like colt is proposing, I'd only enforce it if the parent became abusive towards the officials. IMO, this particular Dad may well have found himself in the parking lot without warning.

I'll give an example. 4 years ago this past fall, my younger brother had sarcoma in his chest. After the initial biopsy, they went in and cleared a little more space around the original tissue to ensure they had it all. The morphine sent him into respiratory arrest in the middle of that first night, and he was moved to ICU. The first night, Dad insisted he (or I) be allowed to stay in the ICU room with him, against hospital policy. They were going to refuse, but Dad called their bluff with the only hand he had. They were going to either let him stay or have him arrested. They acquiesced. My point, he knew their rules, and he didn't think they were necessarily bad. He was, however, prepared as a father to ignore them and do what he thought best for his son; even if there were consequences.

BTW, if your kid is seriously hurt, he's likely leaving the gym for treatment anyway, so being told to leave the gym would only be a formality.

Snaqs and Billy your are both right on the money with your comments. IMO both are justifiable. Iirc, there are already rules in place to stop someone from berating and addressing an official inappropriately so enforcing the rule is all that would be needed, IMO. I am an EMT and certified as a sports trainer and also do not hesitate to assist at a game (football, hockey and basketball) when I see fit. My youngest is now 13 yrs old and I have learned to use some descretion about when help is actually needed. Like was said by this age you can let a little more go. To each his/her own I guess.

rockyroad Wed Mar 19, 2008 11:55am

I also agree with both Billy and Snaqer...I coach HS football, and my sons are on the team. My Senior son this past season took a vicious hit (legal) on a crackback type block and went down like a bag of rags and didn't move. As soon as the whistle sounded to end the play, I was out there. He was OK - just had his bell rung really loudly (no concussion or anything). Anyway, as I was walking off the field with him, the White Hat stopped me and told me that next time I had better wait for him to call me onto the field or he would flag me for USC. My response was to ask him if he even saw the kid go down - and he said no. So I told him to do what he had to do, I was going to take care of my players...I'm willing to take that consequence to make sure my players are OK.

JugglingReferee Wed Mar 19, 2008 12:18pm

In the HS games I've done where a parent comes rushing onto the court/field, it has always been during a dead ball period. I've got no problem with this behavoir. I always do the "beckon" mechanic to show that I'm allowing them to enter the court/field.

If a coach really wishes to earn points via a technical foul because an opponent's player's parent came onto the court, then I will ask him if s/he wishes to be the cause of a technical foul if it were his/her injured child that s/he wished to attend to.

Mark Padgett Wed Mar 19, 2008 01:26pm

Our local kids rec league has as its number one rule - player safety. We tell this to all the coaches and refs before the season starts. We don't care if it's a one point game with 3 seconds to go and a kid is driving for the winning layup, if a player seems seriously injured on the floor, we stop the game to attend to him or her.

As for parents coming out of the stands, if a kid seems really hurt, we have no problem with a parent coming out. That's a million times more important than some silly game.

fullor30 Wed Mar 19, 2008 02:23pm

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Originally Posted by Snaqwells
5th and 6th grade game? Dad gets an escort for this. Letting him on the court is one thing, berating an official afterwards is too far; IMO.

This is what led to Spitzer's demise.

Adam Wed Mar 19, 2008 02:28pm

I was thinking of a Ford, to be honest.

Bad Zebra Wed Mar 19, 2008 03:26pm

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Originally Posted by fullor30
...After game Mom approaches me and ask why I did that. Being slow on the uptake, I start to respectfully explain and am met with "Next time you do that, I sue you" ....

"Then I suggest you get your lawyer on retainer because the next time your little angel pulls that move, the result will be the same".

BillyMac Wed Mar 19, 2008 09:28pm

Up To His Neck ...
 
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Originally Posted by Bad Zebra
"Then I suggest you get your lawyer on retainer because the next time your little angel pulls that move, the result will be the same".

What do you have when you have a lawyer up to his neck in quicksand?

You don't have enough quicksand.

Mark Padgett Wed Mar 19, 2008 09:49pm

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Originally Posted by BillyMac
What do you have when you have a lawyer up to his neck in quicksand?

You don't have enough quicksand.

Why don't sharks attack lawyers?

Professional courtesy.

Back In The Saddle Wed Mar 19, 2008 10:09pm

What's the difference between a dead skunk in the road and a dead lawyer in the road?

There's skid marks before the skunk.


What's brown and black and looks good on a lawyer?

A Doberman!


How can you tell when a lawyer is lying?

His lips are moving.

Bad Zebra Thu Mar 20, 2008 05:31am

The other day, it was so cold, I saw my lawyer standing on the corner with his hands in his own pockets.


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