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[Smitty]

I agree that context is everything. And all of us have varying thickness to our skin. Hard to give a blanket punishment for a particular type of statement without taking context into perspective.

On a similar note, in the big girls varsity invitational here last weekend, I was watching the game after mine and it was a team from another state playing our current state champs, a local team. I was sitting near the bench of the team from out of state. The coach was very animated, mostly coaching, sometimes chipping a little at the calls. He got irritated at one point with a call and the non-calling official was on his way to the trail position opposite his bench for free throws and the coach called the non-calling guy over to complain quietly. Evidently he didn't like the response he got, so as the non-calling official was walking away to his spot, the coach says (loud enough for the crowd on his side of the bench to hear) "which one of them is your daughter?". I would have whacked him right there, but this guy gave him the stop sign and said "that's enough, coach".