Mentoring

rburn22281 · #1 (**permalink**) Sat Jan 05, 2002, 01:55pm

What is the best way to approach a Veteran referee about being your mentor?

Mike Burns · #2 (**permalink**) Sat Jan 05, 2002, 02:24pm

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Originally posted by rburn22281
What is the best way to approach a Veteran referee about being your mentor?

From upwind!

Most of the vets I have approached have been very helpful. There is only one guy that I call my "mentor" and he is the guy who convinced me to put on the stripes. He has attended a few of my games and given me feed back. He has been helpful in answering questions that I feel are too "dumb" for me to ask here. (although I know that's not true).

I would be willing to bet that most of the vets in your association would be willing to be a mentor. Best thing to do is to make sure your mentor is going to be someone you will respect. Don't just ask the first pretty face.

Your mentor should be someone who is willing to take time with you to really be helpful.

Mike

Just Curious · #3 (**permalink**) Sat Jan 05, 2002, 03:01pm

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Originally posted by rburn22281
What is the best way to approach a Veteran referee about being your mentor?

I find a little humor in the question because it seems to me that the KISS (Keep It Simple Stupid) approach is so often overlooked... This was not to imply that anyone here is really "Stupid" but even in the Marine Corps they said that the only "Stupid" question was the question not asked...
That being said, a question came up a while back at our church concerning congregation involvement. It seemed that it was always the same few people volunteering for everything... This lead to a 2nd question... Has anyone ever asked anyone else "directly" for help or to help?
Now there are probably some out there (including myself) that would say.. "Why should we have to ask? But the truth of the matter is that a lot of people need to be asked point blank!
I started asking people if they could do this or help out with that and I was simply amazed with the response I got... We have more involvement now at our church than I can ever remember...
IMHO An element of self worth is felt in individuals when invited to help with finding solutions to situations... to be a part of a team that respects what you might have to say... to know that because of what they contributed it enhanced the overall performance of the group.
It just doesn't always seem to happen on its own...
Soooooo Just ask!