A T in this situation is only asking for a lot of trouble down the road. Sure it is the "correct ruling" but I would have a really hard time calling something like that. Everything that I have ever been taught is to keep the game flowing as best you can. Not only does this stop the flow but you will hear from both coaches on every potential flop by the defense. Plus if I was the coach of the team rewarded by the T you would have lost all credibility with me. My next question would be did they gain an advantage? If no advantage, then did they put themselves in a disadvantage? If so, tough luck! Also maybe just maybe they didn't really want to take the charge and they chickened out. Would you stay in way of some 250 - 300lb guy when you don't get paid to?

This seems to be creeping into the boys game. Last week I
had one where 2 defenders moved in to trap the ball
yelling "dead dead dead". Well, the ball wasn't dead too
long cause A1 skipped to A2 who hit A3 under the basket.
No one complained about a broken nail but I did hear
coach B mutter "my head hurts" as I ran by.

i've coached both - boys never pass the ball!

I did a game last week where the point guard was close to 200 pounds and about 5'6". She was fast and ferocious on the dribble. I saw three different times when defenders stepped in to take the charge, and could have had it, but then stepped aside. She really did look like a freight train out of control, and it would have been a literal train wreck!!