Coach managment

[Dan_ref]

Originally Posted by SmokeEater

Remember, Coaches don't have to necessarily agree with what you call but they do have to understand and go with it.

JMO, and it works for me. Treat a coach how you would want to be treated.

Smoke

Yep, this sums it up pretty well. Work to have a good relationship on the court with both coaches, but remember you are responsible for controlling their behavior when you need to.

[JRutledge]

There is no one size fits all way to handle coaches. What I do might not work for you. What you do might not work for me. Some guys can be funny and keep everyone laughing and other need to be a "hard ***" and show that they will not be run over. Or you could be somewhere in between. I do agree that usually the response "I hear you coach" does work a lot. The problem is what are you going to do when a coach has a legitimate question? You cannot always say "I hear you coach" or a canned response. You sometimes have to answer questions directly or not say much of anything. Usually the good coaches will listen to you and not go on and on about calls. The coaches that are not either very good tend to complain every time up the floor and constantly have an issue with the officiating. You just have to find out through experience what works for you.

Peace

[refhoops]

I agree with Rut, you have to decide what style works for you. My style is not being a hard*** but I am not a comedian either. Biggest complaint that I hear from coaches is when refs do not acknowledge them. This can be nothing more than a nod of this head. They what to know that they are being heard. But any any coach who complains the entire game has no credibility with me and I tend to tune them out. My experience is coaches at the lower levels never let it go, they will harp about a call from early in the game the entire game while better and higher level coaches will let it go very within a short period of time and get back coaching their team. Find what works for you and go with it.

[TADW_Elessar]

One of my favourite series at officiating.com about coach management:

Who goes there, friend or foe?
by Juulie Downs

[Jurassic Referee]

Originally Posted by TADW_Elessar

One of my favourite series at officiating.com about coach management:

Who goes there, friend or foe?
by Juulie Downs

Geeze, I got as far as Juulie telling us to imagine standing with the coach in a rose garden.......and then it said "insert $50 to continue".

I've got my own imaginary little mantra. Ain't gonna cost you $50 either. Forget about the rose garden and try this:

Picture yourself near a stream. Birds are softly chirping in the crisp, cool mountain air. Nothing can bother you here. No one else knows this secret place. You are in total seclusion from that place called "the world". The soothing sound of a gentle waterfall fills the air with a cascade of serenity. The water is crystal clear. You can easily make out the face of the coach whose head you are holding underwater.

[deecee]

Just acknowledge a coach that you hear his concerns and will address them when best fit. Also unless you are 100% sure dont tell a coach that -- say coach from my angle thats what I saw -- he could have a different opinion than you and thats fine.

If you know a coach is irate at you give him room and stay opposite for a while. Once he cools down if you feel address his concerns then (you dont have to unless he asks nicely).

If you have to tell a coach something like not to roam to far up and down the sideline just remind him nicely once or twice if hes coaching and not harrasing (if hes harrasing one warning is enough).

I like to give coaches as much rope as needed for them to hang themselves -- by the time they get one they deserve it and everyone knows it. Now there are catch phrases that will cost a coach faster than cyndi lauper was popular and those usually revolve around the personal stuff.

[rainmaker]

Originally Posted by deecee

Just acknowledge a coach that you hear his concerns and will address them when best fit. Also unless you are 100% sure dont tell a coach that -- say coach from my angle thats what I saw -- he could have a different opinion than you and thats fine.

If you know a coach is irate at you give him room and stay opposite for a while. Once he cools down if you feel address his concerns then (you dont have to unless he asks nicely).

If you have to tell a coach something like not to roam to far up and down the sideline just remind him nicely once or twice if hes coaching and not harrasing (if hes harrasing one warning is enough).

I like to give coaches as much rope as needed for them to hang themselves -- by the time they get one they deserve it and everyone knows it. Now there are catch phrases that will cost a coach faster than cyndi lauper was popular and those usually revolve around the personal stuff.

And never, never, never sell out your partner to a coach. Never. Never. Someday it may be you.

[rainmaker]

Originally Posted by Jurassic Referee

Geeze, I got as far as Juulie telling us to imagine standing with the coach in a rose garden.......and then it said "insert $50 to continue".

I've got my own imaginary little mantra. Ain't gonna cost you $50 either. Forget about the rose garden and try this:

Picture yourself near a stream. Birds are softly chirping in the crisp, cool mountain air. Nothing can bother you here. No one else knows this secret place. You are in total seclusion from that place called "the world". The soothing sound of a gentle waterfall fills the air with a cascade of serenity. The water is crystal clear. You can easily make out the face of the coach whose head you are holding underwater.

JR, just remember that not everyone can make a go of that style! I mean, I have a lot of trouble holding a coach's head underwater, since my arms are rather weak and flimsy. So I've developed a more internal way of handling things. I just sulk and mutter to myself, until I explode and whack the poor clueless coach. It's about the same effect as yours, but more entertaining to the on-lookers.

Meantime, I appreciate TADW's plug. Those articles (I think that series ran to 10!!) got me a tidy little sum for buying more whistles, and quite a few complimentary e-mails. Anything that I've discovered that works has to be good for others, since I started with so little of any value.