How to talk to a referee

[tomegun]

Originally posted by Ref Daddy
Every game has a flow to it and referee's adjust as it unfolds.

I disagree with this statement; this is something I wouldn't want a young official to think has merit.
The rules don't change. The points of emphasis don't change from game to game. I've done this quite a bit, but I would like to know how the heck am I supposed to go into a game and adjust to the flow that the players set. Should I let two, three or four fouls go before I see what the flow is that the players set?
I think I will stick with taking the emotional, compasionate part out and calling every game consistently (at least trying to the best I can) by using the rules and POEs.