To "T" or not to "T"?

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Originally posted by Nu1
Did a Frosh boys game with another new guy. Three or four different times, after a foul call, the offending player did the little "I-didn't-do-anything" dance. (Also done in a variation as the "I-had-all-ball" dance. ) I don't know if I'm explaining it well, but I'm hoping you can picture it... the arms flapping up and down and the look of disgust on their face. A couple times I stared at the player and his teammates grabbed him. Once, I was administering a throw-in to a previously "offended" player and he started to question the previous play. Prior to handing him the ball I pulled it back to myself and said, "Excuse me?" He said, "Nothing." And we played on. Maybe I should have T'd up someone for this early??? Maybe I should have had a little meeting with the players - The knock it off or else speech...???

After the first (perhaps 2nd) time of this little dance, I would have done something to stop it. Next time is a T. As for the player commenting prior to the throw-in, if he's a good player you can say something like, "You're a good player on this team. Your team needs you to focus on playing well." It's always worked for me. I only use the "little meeting" in extremely rare cases: twice in 9 years.

In short, first be preventative. If you see something that you don't like, ask yourself how you'd feel if it's 10 minutes later and they're still doing it. If you become uncomfortable, then you definitely need to deal with it before it's 10 minutes later, and preferably now.

Originally posted by Nu1
A couple coach questions; Same game described above - I call a player control foul on A1 for striking B2 in the shoulder with an elbow after A1 secured a rebound. Coach A is ticked about not getting an "over-the-back" call on B2. When I call the foul on A1 he says, loudly, "That's terrible! That's terrible!" No, I didn't whack him. Is this a spot where most would?

Hmm... I might let this go, if the coach has been good all game. In that case, I would still be inclined to let him know his comments are not welcomed. If the coach has previously been a dummy, then I've more apt to T him, because I'd have already tried to prevent him from being a dummy.

Originally posted by Nu1
Finally, another Frosh boys game working with a veteran partner. After the game, my partner tells me the coach said to him during the game, "You guys trying to get out of here early?" No technical. Now, I'm thinking a technical should have been called here. I don't know if I would have, but I think I should, if I heard this comment.

I got nutin', except maybe a "No, sir."