How to talk to Officials

I must say I give Jrut credit for trying to explain himself, but I feel he just adds to the problem of the official is on top of the world, and everyone else is below him or her. I hear a lot on this board and from reading this post that you should treat an official the way you expect to be treated, this I agree with. But I can not put Jrut on the pedestal that he requires. Jrut it sounds like you make a lot of assumptions, remember what happens when you assume things, it makes an *** out of you and me if I believe it.