working with new ref - Page 2

Luv4Asian8 · #16 (**permalink**) Tue Dec 09, 2003, 01:45pm

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Originally posted by rainmaker
Definitely don't let ANYONE know it's your partner's frist games. The best way to "take care" of your partner, is to show the coaches that you respect said partner. If the coach questions a call that your partner made, say, "It looked like a good call to me." If there's no way it could have been a good call, "Coach, ask HIM what he saw. I was busy watching your post player." or "He had a better angle than you or I." In these statements, you're also giveing the coach some language to start a reasonable conversation with your partner. It may not help, but it could.

Be sure that the first thing you say as you walk off the court together is very warm and positive, even if you have to be extremely vague, (I've heard a lot of these!!), such as, "Man, you were working hard!" "You were a lot more relaxed by the end." "That last call was terrific" After the positive statement, state two or three things for partner to work on. State them in an action-oriented way, with no judgement or predictions for the future -- "You need a stronger whistle" not "You'll never go anywhere if you don't learn to whistle better". "Study Rule 9 carefully, and read through the Case Book for Rule 9 several times." not "Haven't you gone over violations yet?" Then give a very good warm statement at the end. "You will get better fast, if you keep this up!" "I've been honored to work with you." Or, if you really liked him a lot, and want to keep in touch, "Let's work together again" or "call me and let's discuss the travelling rule."

Give at least three positive statements during the game. If necessary, lie. That is, lie in a way that could be self-fulfilling in a positive direction. "You have such a calm, collected demeanor" "You make it look like fun." "I heard a couple of parents say good things." "That coach can be a real problem, but you handled him fine."

Answer any questions honestly, but tactfully. "Did I call it too tight?" (He blew 14 fouls in the first half on each team). "Well, there were a few there that I would have let go..." "Your shirt looks good, but pressing your pants would help."

Never say always. Never say never.

Try to have fun yourself. It's quite contagious.

Sorry to go on and on. My "newbie" days are still fresh in my memory, and I'm giving you what I wanted.

Wish I had you for my first game

davidw · #17 (**permalink**) Tue Dec 09, 2003, 02:09pm

williebfree,

You asked: "My niavety got me into trouble a few times. Have you ever had a 5-second closely-guarded call in the BACKCOURT?"

Not that one! But my very first call--ever--was 3 seconds in the key---on a defensive player! (I was a soph. in high school) Never forget that one.

Dan_ref · #18 (**permalink**) Tue Dec 09, 2003, 02:15pm

Quote:

Originally posted by Luv4Asian8

Quote:

Originally posted by rainmaker
Definitely don't let ANYONE know it's your partner's frist games. The best way to "take care" of your partner, is to show the coaches that you respect said partner. If the coach questions a call that your partner made, say, "It looked like a good call to me." If there's no way it could have been a good call, "Coach, ask HIM what he saw. I was busy watching your post player." or "He had a better angle than you or I." In these statements, you're also giveing the coach some language to start a reasonable conversation with your partner. It may not help, but it could.

Be sure that the first thing you say as you walk off the court together is very warm and positive, even if you have to be extremely vague, (I've heard a lot of these!!), such as, "Man, you were working hard!" "You were a lot more relaxed by the end." "That last call was terrific" After the positive statement, state two or three things for partner to work on. State them in an action-oriented way, with no judgement or predictions for the future -- "You need a stronger whistle" not "You'll never go anywhere if you don't learn to whistle better". "Study Rule 9 carefully, and read through the Case Book for Rule 9 several times." not "Haven't you gone over violations yet?" Then give a very good warm statement at the end. "You will get better fast, if you keep this up!" "I've been honored to work with you." Or, if you really liked him a lot, and want to keep in touch, "Let's work together again" or "call me and let's discuss the travelling rule."

Give at least three positive statements during the game. If necessary, lie. That is, lie in a way that could be self-fulfilling in a positive direction. "You have such a calm, collected demeanor" "You make it look like fun." "I heard a couple of parents say good things." "That coach can be a real problem, but you handled him fine."

Answer any questions honestly, but tactfully. "Did I call it too tight?" (He blew 14 fouls in the first half on each team). "Well, there were a few there that I would have let go..." "Your shirt looks good, but pressing your pants would help."

Never say always. Never say never.

Try to have fun yourself. It's quite contagious.

Sorry to go on and on. My "newbie" days are still fresh in my memory, and I'm giving you what I wanted.

Wish I had you for my first game

***Dark internal struggle...must resist urge to stoop to juvenile humor at its most basic...
Bones...help...me...to...re...sist....
Jim! I'm a doctor not a miracle worker! Spock! Help him!
I find this illogical behavior quite troubling doctor****

OK...it's passed now...on your way, nothing to see here folks!

ChuckElias · #19 (**permalink**) Tue Dec 09, 2003, 02:32pm

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Originally posted by Dan_ref
OK...it's passed now...on your way, nothing to see here folks!

I'm just glad I wasn't in the room with you when you let it "pass". . .

Bchill24 · #20 (**permalink**) Tue Dec 09, 2003, 09:24pm

I'm in my third year. I feel a new ref needs both constructive criticism and praise. We all need to work on certain aspects of our game. I still catch myself at times holding up a closed fist on out of bounds calls instead of open hand.

I myself will not tell a coach it's my partners first game. You should have a good pre-game and warn your partner of certain situations that may come up in your game.