A lot of partners you will work with don't want to get better, don't want to discuss plays, and are unwilling to accept criticism, even if the giver means well.

I called an illegal screen the other night and in the locker room at halftime my partner asked me why I called it. I said that a screener has to give time and distance when screening a moving opponent. He said I was wrong and that only applies to a blind screen, but he agreed with my call because this was a blind screen. I wanted to tell him he was wrong back but I bit my tongue.

I suggest cultivating a small group of people you trust and respect to talk about plays/situations. I find it much more rewarding to call those people on the way home from a game and be able to admit when I screwed something up and the person I tell won't look to rip me to other refs.