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I have an almost 9-year-old. She plays softball (I'm the coach of the team), volleyball, and basketball.
I've missed some things. I'll admit it. I wish I would've made a few of those events, but not all of them. I'll admit that, too.
I've never been of the mindset that my life ended at the moment I had a child. Now that she's old enough to talk to, I've told her that I will try to get to some of her games and events, but she has to understand that I have my own games, too, and that those are important to me. If I give it up now, I'm not coming back in 10 years when she's off to college. I'd probably never come back.
If that makes me a shitty father, so be it. Mom's chosen to go to everything -- that's her choice. Probably makes it easier for me to not be at *every* *last* event.
When she's playing at the HS level, the balance may change, but I can guarantee I won't simply quit and follow her from event to event, either.
And since I'm coaching her team in the spring, I'll be cutting back on summer baseball work. That needed to go anyway.
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