[Manny A]

Originally Posted by BillM.

Had a rough game tonight. ASA rules, Co-Ed game.

That's your first mistake.

Originally Posted by BillM.

Batter hits the ball, 1st baseman catches it off a small hop, runs to first. From my perspective, she was going for the tag, but missed the tag. I call the batter-runner safe. The defensive coach appeals my call, stating that she stepped on the bag in the process before the batter-runner got to first. Recalling the play, he was correct, and I grant the appeal and call the batter-runner out.

I'll be honest with you, I have a hard time understanding how you can recall that the first baseman stepped on the bag initially, particularly if you're focused on the tag attempt. I have seen umpires see a base touch, call an Out, then be reminded by the offense that there was no force. That's a bit more believable. Your situation is the exact opposite. You presumably saw a base touch but you ignored it. That's certainly one that will no doubt start a sh!tstorm. Heck, you might've been better off saying you never saw the touch of the bag.

Originally Posted by BillM.

Here’s where Bob comes unglued.

Frankly, I don't blame him one bit. It's time to consume massive amounts of a certain species of black bird.

Originally Posted by BillM.

I told him that they appealed my call...

Technically, as others have said, this is not an "appeal" by rule. What the defense did was simply question your call and point out what happened. Knowledgeable coaches (not saying Bob is one) will key on these kinds of umpire mistakes and make the umpire look even worse.

Originally Posted by BillM.

...and due to my mistake, I overturned it I chalked it up as a correctable error. I did see her tag the base. 100% wrong call on my part. He was being huffy, so I told him that if he wanted to remain in the game, he had better head to his dugout.

Depending on what "huffy" means, you probably shouldn't have said what you said. You screwed up, everyone knows it, and bringing up a possible ejection just adds fuel to the fire. Remember that black bird I mentioned earlier? You probably should have said something like, "Coach, I hear you, but eventually I got it right, so let's just play ball."

Originally Posted by BillM.

That was out 3, the visiting team bats, and then at the bottom of the next inning, Bob, on his way to 1st base, says, “I am filing a protest of this game.” I asked, “So you want to protest this game?”

Confrontational again, IMHO. He already said he wanted to protest. You should have known that his protest isn't valid. I would have said, "Coach, it's too late to protest," but if he insisted on it, I would have responded, "Okay," and let the game continue, knowing that his protest would be thrown out when my report to my assignor lets her know that he filed the protest improperly.

Originally Posted by BillM.

Fast forward to the end of the game, Bob’s team ended up winning, therefore the protest is nullified. I tell each team good job, and to have a good night, and the visiting coach tells me good game. Bob hears this, looks at me and begins shaking his head in a “not true” fashion. He comes up to me and says “Just so you know, you have lost all of my respect for changing your call. That’s the integrity of the game and you ruined it. I have never in 15 years of playing softball in Clive protested a call and that you (me) should be ashamed to call yourself an umpire.” At this point I told him , “Bob, sorry you feel that way, but you are out of here. You are to leave the field immediately.”

Agree with others that none of this should have happened. The game is over, so why stick around, especially when you should suspect that one coach is still mad as hell? Make a beeline for your car (I assume there wasn't another game you were working) and leave.